The Silent Intimacy Challenge
Why You’ll Be Staring at Each Other Like Love-Struck Weirdos During Your Photoshoot
So, you’ve booked your couples’ photoshoot, congrats! Now, before you show up thinking it’s just a “stand there and smile” situation, let’s talk about one of the activities we might do: the Eye Gazing & Touch Exercise.
This is a simple, nonverbal way to create real connection, without awkwardly trying to “act romantic” for the camera. It’s not about posing; it’s about feeling the moment. And don’t worry, I’ll guide you through it so you’re not just standing there wondering how long you can go without blinking.
What Is the Eye Gazing & Touch Exercise?
It’s exactly what it sounds like. You and your partner will:
Make deep eye contact: really see each other, no distractions.
Communicate only through touch: holding hands, a soft caress, a squeeze, whatever feels natural.
Stay silent: no whispering, “This is so weird” to each other (I see you, nervous laughers).
The result? Real, unfiltered intimacy. Instead of overthinking poses, you’ll just connect—and that translates into incredible, authentic photos.
Why We Do This During a Photoshoot
Let’s be honest, cameras can make people self-conscious. But this exercise helps in a few key ways:
It gets you out of your head. You stop worrying about angles and start focusing on your partner.
It creates raw, beautiful emotions. The little smirks, soft smiles, and deep gazes? All real.
It makes photos feel natural, not staged. Instead of forcing romance, it lets your love show up authentically.
Plus, it gives you a mini emotional reset in the middle of the shoot. You walk away feeling closer, not just like two people taking pictures together.
What If This Feels Uncomfortable?
Staring into someone’s soul for a few minutes without speaking isn’t something most of us do daily. But here’s the thing:
It’s totally normal to feel a little awkward at first.
It gets easier after a few seconds.
The best moments usually happen right after the initial weirdness fades.
If it helps, think of it like this: You’re not performing love for the camera—you’re just letting your love breathe while I quietly document it.
Final Thoughts: Just Trust the Process
When I ask you to do this during the shoot, don’t stress about “getting it right.” There is no right way to do it. Just be in the moment. Whether you start giggling, get teary-eyed, or just feel that warm-fuzzy thing in your chest, it all makes for incredible photos.
So when the time comes, take a deep breath, look at your person, and let the connection happen. It’ll be worth it.
See you soon!
